I can’t stop thinking about my weekend and how Wentworth didn’t show up to the concert Saturday night… yeah, whatever, I didn’t invite HIM exactly; I mean, I would have, if I knew him, and there is always an empty seat available and I love going to watch any live music! This concert was one I wanted to see because as a girl my mom would sing old school country in our home and my brother would sing Hank Williams Jr. so I love a mix of old and new, and Clay Walker has a few songs that were special to me. He happened to be performing live in Nevada on Saturday night. So I took myself, alone, on a mini vacay. A literal, Mom on the Move–yes, that’s right–party of UNO!
I only can do this on my two free nights without the babes: go to concerts, plays, musicals, the theater, the opera, movies, sporting events, and any other outing that tradition dictates a couple attend. And yes, I sometimes get that “I’m such a loser” feeling inside but then I remember that it is a choice. I often quote the line from Some Kind of Wonderful, ”I’d rather be alone for the right reasons, than with someone for the wrong.” I choose to enjoy my own company and honor the time away from my children because, to me, it’s sacred. I only have a few hours a week alone and I refuse to fill them up with people I don’t really know or want to be around just so I appear to strangers like I’m not lonely…. so, I’m alone. Ok. And?
I do acknowledge, of course, that there are some places a single gal should not go, and there are things we should not do alone, and in no way am I suggesting to put yourself in harms way to prove a point. Let me be clear on that.
But if you miss going to see a movie that you really want to see because your husband or friend won’t go with you and you can’t bare the thought of going to a movie theater with your “self”? What is wrong with your company? You are enough. Oh, and FYI, a party of one gets the best seats in the house! I have done the math. I always get front row middle at the best venues because the odds are totally in my favor.
I felt inspired to blog about this as the ClichéMom and ask all Moms on the Move, married or not, to step out of their comfort zone and stop missing the good times and fun opportunities and live their lives, even if they’re alone. I would bet there are other wives with husbands who want to watch the game and you want to see a play… let him watch it and you go alone! Because if I waited for Wentworth to come take me to all those things I mentioned, I’d miss everything! I would have missed this Saturday night when Clay Walker sung, “if she’s lonely now, she won’t be lonely long” …. right to me.